This week’s theme is “absolute distraction.” Without further ado:
Why Being Solo and Poly Has Made Me a Happiness Evangelist (The Toast)
I’ve been thinking a lot about monogamy and polyamory lately, so this article came at the right time. This is a really interesting, personal account of how the author sort of fell into polyamory:
I still know far more poly women than men, which clouds my anecdotal reporting on how men versus women react when hearing I’m non-monogamous. However, I do get the most straight-up judgement from mono-normative women who assume that being a tiny minority of a tiny minority of a relationship style must be the best, because I sound like what our culture tells men they’re supposed to want: a strong, independent woman who doesn’t demand monogamy.
Why Men Don’t Like Funny Women (The Atlantic)
I sent this to my best friend this week, because this is something we talk about all the time. She is one of the funniest people I’ve ever met, and I’m no slouch myself. We both agree that we are funnier than 99% of the dudes we meet and interact with, and yet are flummoxed by the fact that dudes so often are put off by our humor. This article talks about all that, and much more, in very depressing, very insightful ways:
The way men and women laugh and joke has been so different for so long that it’s hardened into a stark, oppressive social norm. Norm violators get punished, and often, that means funny women are punished, too.
Mental Illness and the Male Gaze (Guerrilla Feminism)
Go read this right now. Go:
The Sexy Tragic Muse can be found in music, film, literature and pretty much every other form of media. She’s not dissimilar from the Manic Pixie Dream Girl – in fact, I would argue that there is some crossover between the two tropes – but she is also very much her own distinct type. She is usually young, and nearly always white. She’s often portrayed as being hyper-sexual – she’s the type that 30 Rock’s Jack Donaghy was referring to when he said “Emotionally unstable women are fantastic in the sack.” She’s damaged, often as a result of sexual assault or other abuse by men. Her life carries with it some kind of Deep Lesson, usually a lesson that a male protagonist needs to learn.
What got you reading and thinking this week?